if a homeless guy asks you for money and is really rude and uncomfortable, and you say no and make up a lie about why. say for instance, a person declines to donate money to the shady guy and tells him the reason for his lack of contribution. he thens tells a detailed story of a day when he was donating money to a similiar homeless guy who then jacked him and took his wallet. tell the shady guy that the reason this guy is not contributing on this day is because a different homeless guy ruined it for him. i have to imagine that the homeless guy would understand. he wouldnt feel bad for the guy but he atleast cant blame him for not giving money this time. i imagine the homeless guy would still probably produce a rude insulting remark, but the homeless guy might hate him less than if he just said no.
or maybe i am totally wrong here. i cant decide if this is an apporiate defense tactic vs. an annoying persistent homeless guy. this is all in response to an encounter i had yesterday when this guy tried the old 'pretend we are best friends and that somehow entitles him to free money' scheme. unlucky for him, i was on to him and in no mood for the courtesy chat. i could see and feel the weather and traffic and was not interested in discussing them. nor was i going to give him 85 cents. which reminds me of another thing i have pondered before. when people are begging for money, do they have a specific item in mind when they ask for specific amounts like 85 cents? if it was the price of a bus ticket, or a 40, i would understand. but i feel fairly certain there are times when said person asks for a random amount. it almost makes me ask what it is for. like if you are 63 cents short on this than maybe people would be more likely to contribute. i dont know.
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Oh man, that is the one My Little Pony that I could never find. Sweet!
except in cases where you feel threatened and choose a tactic of dishonesty to protect yourself, i think it is always better not to lie.
an analogous situation is when someone invites you to an event you don't want to attend. don't make up a bullshit excuse, just say 'no thanks' or even tell them that you just are not interested in whatever it is.
yeah, i agree its better not to lie. and probably that is why i have never said anything other than 'no' or 'sorry'
i was just sometimes get annoyed when day after day i am bothered. its one thing to sit there and be asked as i walk by, but its even worse when you are aggressively followed a block and forced to have an unwanted confrontation.
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